I try to practice a "talk early, talk often" parenting style. I'm hoping if I say the same thing several times in different ways, some of it might stick.
I think it might be working! This is what I found on my nine year old's hand after school today:
I'm not trying to create a male hating little person. (eventually, a long long time from now, I would like grandchildren) I just want her to focus on education and to save her from some of the heart ache I experienced in school.
I've explained that the reason to date is to find someone to marry, and until your ready to get married there is no reason to date. I didn't think she'd really listen. I was just hoping for a few extra years before we were dealing with boys.
When I asked about her hand she gave me this explanation: "I want to get married when I'm thirty. So, I will start dating when I'm twenty eight. That will give me two years to find a good man."
Sounds very logical to me. We'll see how the next few years go. I will be keeping this picture on hand as a reminder. I might even put it on the refrigerator.....